As the month of August arrives in our midst it might be a good thing to take a stock of where we are with others. Rev. Larry Hollon relates that once in a counseling session a woman was telling her pastor about some difficulties she was having with her teenage children. She felt that no matter how hard she tried she just couldn’t solve their rather serious problems. The pastor felt that she was de-valuing herself based on the uncontrollable behaviors of others. They were rejecting her best advice and intentions. The pastor’s belief was that we are not brought into this world to live in chaos, nor to live a life that is less than it could be. That is the teaching of scripture. “I came that they might have life and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)
A vibrant, productive life happens when we are in the close relationship with God and others. Positive relationships with others inform us of our own value and of life itself with its value and purpose. Sometimes we can only model good behavior and try not to get totally invested in the chaos of the life of others.
When we are in relationship with God we understand that we need not assess our value based on how well others receive our advice, useful or not, but how well we see our own life as a person of value, how we live a life that respects our own dignity and that of others.